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Writer: Iman null
Iman null
Apr 21
2 min read

I usually don't ignore people because it takes a lot of effort for me to do it. I'm not naturally forgetful and when I know there's a task that I haven’t completed, it gives me a lot of anxiety. I usually respond as soon as I see something because of that. The only people I don't respond to consistently are people that text me like I'm their journal. I see not responding to someone or ignoring them as out of character for me because of this. However, the past few months have inspired me out of seeing ignoring someone as out of character. 


“I think this was disrespectful” is what Adnan had to say about me not answering his call and taking just an hour to reply to him. Adnan frequently takes days, hours, and in my opinion sometimes eons to get back to me. He cancels at the last minute with no apology all the time. So, I decided to for the first time, treat him the way he treats me the other day. He was so pissed.  Like genuinely furious and mad at me. I said to him “you mean the way you treat me?”. He acted brand new about that one. He fixed his lips to tell me that he thinks he's never done something like that to me. Best to believe I went down the list. He was like :0 

It was literally righteous. Why? Because one of my strongest values is that bad behavior should be corrected and that I should correct it when I see it no matter how uncomfortable it is. Was it uncomfortable for me to not be courteous and answer his call when I could have? Yes. I didn't like doing it, but he learned something from it. I did too. I learned that I'm gonna start ignoring people back until they learn to be respectful of people they interact with and that it's not out of character for me to do so. It is perfectly in character for me to discipline bad behavior. 

 
 
 

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